Oftentimes, when we start recovery, we recognize that there are underlying patterns in relationships that fueled or supported our problematic substance use. John and Julie Gottman, founders of the Gottman Institute, study relationships and remind us that “no one can provide their partner with everything. A single person can’t fulfill another’s every need.” This statement is the antithesis of co-dependence, and allows us to consider how to build strong, healthy relationships.
